Hello, let me do it.
This week, I was nervous in front of the Sacred Heart Catholic School classroom in Camberwell, southern London. I was there to talk to my 12th grade student about developing my career and the skills to help them in the future workplace.
My visit is part of the Speakers for Schools program, and I strongly recommend that readers participate. British social mobility charity sends a “famous and reputable person” (obviously including me) to discuss the students’ perspectives and career desires. Check the details and apply for this speaker.
Please read excellent advice on how to move at work and how to navigate the ending. Office therapy sympathizes with readers who are dissatisfied with sustainable “satisfying the potential.”
How to deal with the ending (and prepare for the following)
Last week, I told the end of the working IT podcast and I felt it. 。 。 Melancholy ☹️. I worked with the reader to the Linkedin Hive Mind. What is your best tips for navigating the ending when it occupies a big part of your job identity?
Podcast was just a part of my job, so I’m interested in hearing how people have dealt with the greater cracks, such as parting with the employer, which is a core employer in the work identity and the entire adult age. There was. I had a lot of useful comments, messages, emails (thank you), and I wanted to share some insights here.
But first, I went to Herminia IBarra, a professor in London Business School’s organizational behavior and a Working Identity: the author of an unconventional strategy to reform your career. Herminia is a workplace transition expert (probably an expert). She stressed that there was a big difference between dealing with spontaneous ending in the workplace and dealing with forced ones.
“The ending is difficult because our self -sensation is very tied to what we are doing. It’s easy to control when you choose to leave, and it’s easy. Probably, the exit is a lot of difficulty in our livelihood, position, and confidence.
“Psychologically, loss and threats kill our creativity and suppress our desires to explore. They want to seek us for safety and security, which is a fulfilling next chapter. It is not the best recipe to find.
“That’s why people are upset by unwilling losses should resist the urge to jump into actions to replace the lost job. What happened, what it means. We recommend that you take the time to handle and reconfirm the other important aspects of who you are. Building an emotional state enhances the possibility that you can move to better by using changes. “
The people who have experienced the transition themselves emphasized the importance of stopping over time. Rupert Brown, a HR reader and change advisor, states: The limbo period from the end of something to start doing another thing is unpleasant. It also has creativity and experimentation. growth. Don’t hurry. If that happens, do not close it naturally, forcibly ask for closure or to close. ”
PATRICE GORDON has recently navigated the transition from the role of corporate leadership to the CEO of the consultant company. She reminded me that it wasn’t a lack of performance that generally caused a sudden end. “I have improved strategic priority in cooperation with the world’s top consultants and led those projects myself. If you are a powerful performer and your role is deleted or changed. Know: That’s not you -it’s just a business.
“I feel it is deep and personal, but behind those closed doors, executives do not think about their names. They are box, personnel, and roles. I’m looking at it. ”
The last word from Catherine Mayer. He did many different and successful things. An experienced journalist she co -founded a women’s equality party and a Primadon Na Festival to write some non -fiction books. Her first novel appears in April. (When I first met her, I was hit a little by a star.) Catherine told me: I wasn’t a fierce method, but from my experience. There are scars, but some of the best things I’ve done so far have come at this moment. “
In short, you can be sad, especially when the job or project is over, especially if it is forced. Give me time.
Do you want more? This is also given by psychotherapist Julia Samuel and is back for support according to the changes in all kinds of life. Also, it is written beautifully.
Office therapy
Problem: One of our leaders is definitely late for the organization/leading meeting. Usually it is about 5 minutes. We manage to get to the room or log on over time. Is this a power play? It’s not serious, it’s annoying -But can we do something?
Isabel’s advice: Well, everyone can appear in a large amount of 5 minutes. That is my first idea. Please try it.
In my guess, this boss is overcurely scheduled for either executive assistant, whether it is. And I do not take a break during the meeting to drink tea.
At an external meeting I recently attended, the facilitator wrapped things up, saying that it would be necessary to “respect our time” by over time. I can’t say it myself (alone), but I like emotions. Our time is valuable. Is there a brave soul (you?) Among the attendees, can you mention that the whole group likes to start on time?
In many cases, there is a deep reason why we are delayed. I am strict with time, but sometimes I don’t have enough time to get there when I don’t want to go to social or work events. I am convinced that you know this feeling: you cannot admit that you do not want to go, but your unconscious heart is rebellious. Your boss may hate to hold a meeting.
Perhaps they don’t feel as important as they are (not self -value) or how long it takes to go to a conference room far from the desk. (There are some conference rooms in the FT office with confusion and places. In my experience, I can really maintain things.)
Therefore, as long as you do not want to work frankly in the boss, their EA, or the group settings of the meeting, they all need something called “psychological safety”, and I “terrible rate directly. You will be called “Sa” -I, then you and your colleagues need to accept those extra one minute Doomscrolling.
Is there an office therapy dilemma? Please email me: isabel.berwick@ft.com. All of them are anonymized all.
Inspired American workplace from the charter: AI can find what you are avoiding
We asked Kevin Deranny, editor -in -chief of the US future media and research firm, Cabin Delanie, to share the most interesting hints from last week’s charter AI Summit. He mentioned the media and high -tech emerging companies about the anecdote of Dan Shipper, the highest executive officer of Everyy. As Kevin told me, Dan puts the transcript of the conference in Chatgpt or Claude and asks, “What are you aware of how I appear?” “
Kevin went on as follows. “Dan is trying to improve the avoidance of the dispute, so the AI tool is” What are you avoiding? “He sometimes try it at a meeting all day. “
AI is already very sensitive to social dynamics nuances and can give good feedback. I am fascinated: Are there any readers who are already doing this? If so, let me know. (That may really help us everyone: For example, many British workplaces tend to be nervous from the front.)
5 top stories from the world of work
Did the American industry major forget what they were for? Andrew Hill wrote this long reading for the crisis facing a giant aging company. Successful success, often, means that leaders begin to concentrate too much in short -term financial metric. Great readers comments.
DEI Backlash: Employers have not withdrawn and are reconstructed: Anjli Raval has investigated the DEI crisis and the employer committed to diversity has begun to focus on effective change programs. Find the cause of optimism.
A place where “waking up” did not go well: A truly good outline of advanced politics and corporate DEI (see above). Henry Mans talks about the story so far and looks ahead.
Office Sycophant is always with us. One of the great hints in this column in Pilitaclark is how to work without becoming a toady. Sitting next to your boss at a meeting is one simple tactic.
The world’s most elite coach’s confession: Hollywood and business elite’s cool coach John Fips by Tony Dominges, FT weekend profile, and more likely to be visible everyday. The world of shadows. It’s a long reading, but it’s very valuable.
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I didn’t fall in love with the theater, but this week I was at risk at the stall. I play at the waist end until April. Five actors play Annie at various stages of her life and play all other parts. It is a great and very interesting thing in the description of women’s lives. Pass the flash for 2 hours. (Warning: If you are very nervous, this play may not suit you.)
Finally! The present is back
One of our last pod cast episodes, a professor at Harvard Business School, featured Alison Wood Brooks, the author of the Science of Conversation and the Artalf. Allison gave her hints on having more conversations at work. Her talk framework (it represents a topic, asking, light Lev, kindness -pillars of good conversation)) is very reasonable for me, and I’m trying to put it into practice.
TALK is published by Penguin Life (£ 20), but there are 10 copies for working IT readers. On Friday, February 7, we will use this form to enter the present by noon in the UK. Draw the winner randomly and notify in the afternoon.
