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As we reached the peak of summer, we noticed that some people were still responding to messages. From now on, many of us have concluded that we are not that good at holidays. At the very least, we have never returned from the museum and sat by the pool, and we cannot remove or drop out of our work identity.
My own perception of how bad it is to relax came a few years ago. On a stroll along the glorious coastal cliffs, I yelled at the mindfulness app not downloading. My exploited catches my eye from a cyclist who must have seen stressful tourists who have been messing around with her phone and missing the sunset, rather than embracing nature.
Much of my life involves this kind of attempt to cram in quick meditation while exercising. I love wooooo a bit, but my approach is 80:20. I do 30 minutes of yoga, but skip the final relaxation on the mat. I smuggled coffee cans into my recent detox retreat to keep up with my caffeine headache-free job.
So it is with the enthusiasm of the converts that I can report the results of the careless experiment I was running on about the techniques of slowing. This was forced on me by a sports injury that caused two months of escalating pain, followed by surgery to repair my hip joint. Being forced to make things easier not only made life feel lighter, but to my surprise, it made me more productive.
This unscientific experiment fell neatly into two parts. Until the surgery, I decided to maintain my usual busy pace. I reached a state of pain walking down the street, but dialing back didn’t happen to me. I’m in a bad mood at home and it’s tough at meetings. I loaded my bedside table with prints and articles I had saved to read later, and along with the books I had ordered urgently, I couldn’t remember why they thought so important.
When I came out of the hospital, I stopped trying to read and stopped falling into a state of gloomy surrender. I took my headphones out of my ears, noticed the sky, and became someone who smelled jasmine. The stranger smiled and chatted, tentatively dragging his legs on crutches. The car will wait patiently for me to cross. He was much closer than usual when I finally made it to the post office and asked Ali at the back of the counter what he was like.
It comes as a bit of a shock to realize that the friendly, cheerful women I imagine are often fast forwards. Recently, my darkness about the state of the world has transformed into a feeling that other people have retreated to themselves. Traveling through Slow Lane restored my faith in mankind. As you stop scrolling and look up, the human desire for empathy and Yoriti is still there.
In theory, we all know the difference between busyness and productivity. In reality, they are ambiguous by competing demands. As an excuse for cast irons, I deleted the email backlog. I finally felt that I could shred the article I saved, and I drifted the mental load that came with it.
As a result, there was a satisfying increase in mental abilities despite their small size. I began aceing puzzles that confused me, especially those that needed to make lateral connections. There was a moment of “aha” in the book I’m writing. In a chapter that I used to be stuck. I thought my 6 weeks of holiday would be a hardworking time. But I have manifested with many new ideas, greater cheerfulness about fellow men, and the realization that if you have an empty diary, you will not lose your soul.
Guru Cal Newport, author of slow productivity, has a mantra three times more. Do less, he says. Work at a natural pace. And we are obsessed with quality. I have used some of his tactics in the past. But I never really understood what he meant by setting your own pace, or how the adrenaline topic of “pushing through” owns a natural rhythm.
Having a creative knowledge job is fortunate enough to gain immense flexibility from technology. But it also creates a burden of expectations. We understand what sociologists Melissa Mazmania, Wanda Olikowski and Joan Yates call the “autonomous paradox.” We have an illusion of control, but we need to always turn it on. As a result, they argue, we could also make mistakes. Just before the surgery, I booked tickets for several return trains for a family trip on the wrong day. Because I was scanning my diary too quickly on the phone.
I now realize that I’m always doing this. The problem is that, as we discovered on that coastal walk, the pressure to switch off can become its own pressure. The missing ingredients give you permission to take a break rather than downloading another podcast about less.
I may not “manifest” my best life. But I’m at least repersonalized.
camilla.cavendish@ft.com
